Your “trellis”

Posted by Mark on 06 Jan 2010 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

The first step in forming a “trellis” that makes room for the work of God to take place in our lives is to engage in candid reflection on our current status.  I said Sunday that we all have a “trellis” because we all have a set of things we do regularly.  Some patterns may be relatively recent ones adapted because of some change in our life or schedule, while others may be established from long habit.  As you ask yourself these questions, don’t be hard on yourself.  Try to be as thorough as you can, without any prejudgment.  Try to be neutral.  That way you won’t “fudge on any of the answers.  Are you ready?

1.  How much sleep do you get each night?  (Do you have a regular bed time or get up time?)

2.  What are your weekly commitments?  ( Appointments, work schedule, trips to the gym, the grocery store, coming to our Sunday worship, Life group,  anything you do weekly.)

3.  Reflecting on 2009, what project or projects did you accomplish outside of your job?  ( This could be anything you did to your home, or volunteering, or as a member of a team.  Anything you would consider as “done”.)

4.  How much time did you spend in regular activities.  (reading, watching television, going to the movies, meeting friends, sports,)

5.  How are your finances?  Do you have a budget and a financial plan or not?  What kind of pressure are you experiencing in this area?

6.  What is the balance between “work” and “play” in your life?  Do you always have to be doing something productive, or can you ever just rest.

7.  What is our current plan for spending time in the word and prayer?  What spiritual disciplines do you practice regularly?   Do you have some goals in these areas? Do you have some prepared materials, study guides, etc. that you are using in this area? Do you use some kind of prayer list?  What are you doing now to grow spiritually.  List anything you are currently doing.

7.  What “rules” guide your life.  My family told me that one of my rules was that when the traffic light turns green, it means go, and I get to say things to the car in front of me I would never say to the person’s face if they don’t go.  Maybe you have some “governing” rules that shape your behavior at different times.

8.  After you make a list consider these numbers.

24 hours in a day

7 days a week

168 hours in a week.

Now, take the answers from the previous questions, and anything else you observed about your life this week, and make some kind of list or chart that shows how you are using the time God has given you.  Is there any room in your schedule?  Are you overbooked? Do you have lots of free time?

The main purpose behind this exercise is to bring you to this point.  Having a “rule” or a trellis just may give you a new found permission to say “NO”…. I can’t add that to my life right now, thank you anyway.   Wouldn’t that be a relief?  For some of us, before we can say Yes go God, we may have to say no to a few things, just so we have breathing room.

Please feel free to make comments on this post, as your thoughts may be helpful to others.  And be sure to e-mail me any insights you have.  I ‘d love to know what you are learning.

Happy New Year

Posted by Mark on 03 Jan 2010 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

This year I am experimenting with a thought I learned from a couple of different sources.  It is an idea that goes back to monastic traditions.  Ooohh..that sounds scary. But it really isn’t.   Each monastic movement had a “rule” that governed the pattern of their corporate life.  It was a set of principles that guided them in how they worshiped, worked and lived in community.  From this, we can adopt the idea of constructing our own “rule” of life.  Now if that sounds legalistic, consider this.  Whether you have chosen to construct a “rule”, or simply just lived life with little thought about the pattern you were constructing for yourself…you still end up with a “rule”.  You do certain things pretty regularly.  (I have never encountered anyone who thought it was legalistic to practice eating three times a day.)  The question to consider is whether the rule you have, chosen or otherwise, places you before God in a way that He can change you.  If our normal regular patterns never bring us to the Scriptures, or to prayer, then how can we ever expect the work that only the Holy Spirit can do in us to take place.

So this year in church I am going to be talking about what our “rule” is. But the analogy is better considered as a trellis.  A grape vine grows best when there is some structure to support its growth.  A “rule” or pattern for life is simply a trellis for our branch to grow on as we are connected to the vine.  (John 15:5) It isn’t the vine.  It has no life in and of itself.  But it supports the growth the vine creates.

To get us started with this process, I am asking you to do this simple assignment for this week, observe your life. Try to write out the “rules” or “trellis” you are living by now.  Check back on Tuesday, (January 5th)  for some specific questions to ask yourself about your current ” trellis” or “rule of life”.  Feel free to leave some comments here on the blog.  As you make some observations…share them.  Send me an e-mail about what you are learning about yourself from considering your own “rules”.  I would love to have some people share some thoughts next Sunday as we each develop our own “rule” or “trellis”.

Family

Posted by Mark on 12 Dec 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

With Christmas around the corner, many of us are anticipating spending time with family.  For some of us, that is a delightful prospect.  Others may have mixed feelings about it.  Why is it that family presents such a challenge?  One of the reasons is that as “family” we tend to know the truth about each other, or we think we do.  Having grown up together, we think we understand how things should be.  The problem is that sometimes we are wrong about others in our family and sometimes they are wrong about us.  Mark tells us this about Jesus’ family as His ministry was beginning to attract a lot of notice.

When His own people heard of this, they went out to take custody of Him, for they were saying, “He has lost His senses.” Mark 3::20

If Jesus could be misunderstood by His own family, it shows the challenge that the proximity of “family” can present.  Sometimes families just don’t get it right.  Facing pressure from family members is tough.  Jesus didn’t let His family deter Him from His own calling and mission.  Neither should we.  On the other hand, we should think twice before we put pressure on others because we might be the ones who have it wrong.

So, this year a good plan for the family gatherings might be to seek to listen before you speak. Seek to understand before you seek to be understood.  Don’t let family pressure deter you from your calling.  Most of all, hug the ones you love, while you have the chance.

Purify me

Posted by Mark on 10 Nov 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

Recently I was praying through Psalm 51.  I was confessing some sin in my life that I needed to talk to the Lord about.  I was struck by the word hyssop.  David writes, “purify me with hyssop and I shall be clean…”.  I asked, what does hyssop do?  Off to a bible search program and I found the answer.  Hyssop isn’t a soap.  It is a small bush or flower of sorts.   It was used by the priests to sprinkle the blood of the sacrifice on the altar.  All of a sudden my cleansing became clear to me.

“But it doesn’t exist!”

Posted by Mark on 05 Nov 2009 | Tagged as: Marriage, Uncategorized

Romans 4: 17

even God, who gives life to the dead and calls into being that which does not exist.

Often when we pray, we limit ourselves to the kinds of things we can see happening. Much like we wouldn’t ask a friend or our children to do something we think beyond their capability, we limit the kind of requests we make of God. But in Romans 4, as Paul describes the faith of Abraham, he make this passing comment about God. Our God is the one who gives life to the dead, and calls things into being that do not exist.

I stopped as I read those words.  Dead things back to life. How many things do I  consider dead, hopeless? Yet God is the God of resurrection. But even this isn’t an adequate picture of His power. Because when something is dead, it actually once existed…alive. We can see the carcass, the remains. God can do more than that. He can bring something into being that has as yet to EVER exist.

Do I believe this? Honestly?  No. I say that because I don’t pray that way at all. But I am starting to pray that way. I think that is the way God invites us to pray…and live….joining with Him in His work.

Bridges

Posted by Mark on 01 Oct 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

This past summer, I walked on a nearby bike trail that crosses a bridge to an island in the James River.  The trail runs the full length of the island and crosses another bridge to reach the other side.  The trail also runs underneath a four lane highway bridge that crosses the James.  Standing near this bridge you can hear the sound of cars speeding by overhead, all the while seeing the river slowly drift by. As I did this that day, the contrasts were extreme.  I thought of a scene in the book Prince Caspian.  The river asked Aslan to set it free from the bridge because the bridge allowed people to cross without going through the water.

Although bridges can be a metaphor for connecting, on this particular day I saw them in a different way.  The bridge, high above my head, allowed travelers to hurry on their way without slowing down.   As I watched the water that day, I thought of all the beautiful things a river can symbolize — cleansing, healing, life from above.  I thought of busy travelers avoiding getting wet.  I thought of how often I avoided getting wet. How often do I avoid slowing down?   How often do I take the bridge, rather than going to the water’s edge?

I resolved that day to slow down and spend more time “by the water” each week.  I did for awhile, but then “busyness” set it.  But I am going walking again real soon.

Next Steps

Posted by Mark on 19 Jul 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

Confession and repentance are important steps in our spiritual growth.  As we recognize wrong thoughts, actions, and attitudes it is good to acknowledge them before our Heavenly Father and to receive His forgiveness and cleansing.  Once we have taken those steps it is equally important to walk in the the truth in those areas of our life.  Paul writes in Romans that we are not to be conformed to the world, but we are to be transformed by the renewing of our mind.  (Romans 12: 1, 2)  It is teachings like this that lead us to the understanding that God is very willing to transform us, as we open ourselves to His work.  Simple, practical, methodical steps are the way of opening ourselves to His work.  They are not “magical formulas”.  They are just ways of wisdom, time honored practices of those who follow Jesus.  So how can you experiment with these ways? What follows are a number of simple practical steps you can take.  At the end will be some additional resources for further study.

10 Practical Next Steps.

1. Begin a daily time of being alone with God.  Start by asking God to speak to you from His word.  Read a portion of Scripture.  Work your way through a single book of the Bible step by step.  Reflect on what you have read.  Pray about what you have learned.  Pray about the day’s events. (There is no specific time for this…morning, evening, afternoon. do whatever works for you and your schedule.)

2.  Pray through the Psalms, one psalm per day.

3.  Take a walk in a park or on a hiking trail.  Go slowly and reflect on God’s creation.

4.  Fast for a day.

5.  Volunteer to serve some people in need.

6.  Memorize a key passage of Scripture and meditate on it periodically over an extended period of time.  (Key passages - Colossians 3:1 - 17; 1Corinthians 13; Psalm 23; Psalm 1 for example)

7.  Pray for God’s blessing on Lynchburg.  Pray for the civic, school and church leaders.

8.  Experiment with “Sabbath” rest.  Find time to slow down and do “nothing”.

9.  Study a passage of Scripture.  Make an outline of the key thoughts.  Look up the words in a dictionary.  Use www.studylight.org as a resource.

10.  Read a good Christian book or biography.

Some Examples:

Celebration of Discipline - Richard Foster

Embracing the Love of God - James Bryant Smith

Developing Intimacy with God - Alex Aronis

Renovation of the Heart - Dallas Willard

A Long Obedience in the Same Direction - Eugene Peterson

The Life of St. Antony - Athanasius

The Bondage Breaker - Neil Anderson

Caution:  Remember these are NOT laws.  They are just practices Christians have done for centuries.  You aren’t a better person because you have done one, or two or all of them.  They don’t EARN you anything.  They are just ways you walk with the Lord and open yourself to His work in your life.

Caller ID

Posted by Mark on 22 Apr 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

Caller ID technology changes the way we use our phones. Now we can answer (or not answer) the phone because we know who is on the other end.  There are probably times when each of us have screened our calls this way.

If prayer is always a response to God’s initiative toward us, then I have to ask myself… am I screening His “calls” too.  Revelation 3: 20 uses another image. It portrays Jesus as knocking on our doors, desiring to come into our lives and to spend time with us over a meal.  Do I welcome this greeting, or do I ignore the knock?  Do I answer “the phone” or does the caller ID keep me from picking up the receiver.

This past week, I realized I haven’t always been responding to God’s initiatives toward me. I have been screening His calls at different times. How about you? Are you answering the phone, or have you been too busy when your Caller ID shows God is calling?

Holy Week

Posted by Mark on 07 Apr 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

The week between Palm Sunday and Easter is often referred to as Holy Week.  We remember the days of Jesus’ life prior to His crucifixion.  These events can be difficult to read.  But they are enormously important.  Recently, I saw an article that claimed that the presence of evil in the world proved that God could not be all good.  It would be possible in a short-sighted way to allow the pain and suffering we encounter in the world to cause us to despair of anything better.  We could give in to such thoughts that maybe God isn’t good… until Holy Week.  Then we face something quite different.  God did not leave the world as it was.  He did not remain detached in some kind of unfeeling way.  Jesus came and suffered unimaginable pain and heart ache at the hands of mankind, His own creation.  He took upon Himself deep wounds for our sin so that we could be healed.  Yes, there is pain; there is suffering.  Yet evil does not win.  Jesus has risen as He said.  All will be made new.  Hallelujah!

Knowing God Better

Posted by Mark on 12 Mar 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

Moses was blessed with one of the most powerful encounters with God prior to the coming of Jesus Christ.   Deuteronomy tells us that God spoke with him “face to face”.  Yet the writer of Hebrews urges us to go BOLDLY before the throne of grace in Hebrews 4.  It is interesting that just prior to this instruction two strong statements are made. Nothing is hidden from God’s sight and Jesus sympathizes with our weaknesses.  In otherwords, we have nothing to fear.  The invitation to come before God is made with complete understanding of who we are and where we have been.  I truly believe we know God as much as we care to know Him.  Is there something keeping you from knowing Him better?  Is fear any part of what is holding you back?  Don’t shrink back.  Enter boldly before His Throne.  Jesus our “high priest” is waiting to meet you there.

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